Spring Cleaning of the Heart

I’ve not been writing much this year – in part because I was unclear if I was to be writing on a particular subject (or using a particular format) like I did in 2018, but also … and perhaps more truthfully, because I was heart weary.

For the first time in many (many!) years, I started dating again. It was delightful, and I’m so grateful for the awakening that took place in my feminine heart during that time. In many ways, I liken it to the re-opening of an old house that hasn’t been lived in for decades. It may look a bit of a mess at first, but as you remove the sheets that covered fine furnishings, polish up the woodwork and light fixtures, etc … your eyes behold a beautiful and inviting home filled with character and memories that welcome you in.

This was my experience. Rooms of my heart have been re-opened, spring-cleaned, and are now ready to welcome the man that has been praying for such a woman as me (just like I’ve been praying for him).

And I learned something amazing about myself through this recent experience of discovering attraction, engaging in vulnerability, lowering the drawbridge of my heart, moderating emotions, engaging in honest communication, and practicing prayerful discernment.

I’m absolutely NOT the woman I was!

That might not mean much to some of you … but if you have read some of my older posts or dared to read my story (see sidebar category), then you know that there was a long season of my life when I was making need-based relationship choices, and those need-based choices nearly were the end of me!

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But this time, I experienced something different!! I experienced dating from the place of emotional health and wholeness!!

I’ve never done that before! Ever! (seriously, ever!!)

“Better late than never’ they say, and at 58 years old I finally dated without handing over my value and worth to be weighed and measured by another person (as I have done countless times in the past). Instead of offering my Identity (worth and value) to a person … my Identity remained nested throughout my river-walk with this gentleman in whom the Lord says I am His beloved, His daughter, His bride.

“I will lift up my eyes [and my heart] to the hills, from where does my help come? My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth.”

Psalm 121: 1-2 (MEV)

What a delight to my soul and spirit!!! To experience the transformation that I have worked so hard for all these years!! Not that I’ve ever run a marathon (and believe you me, I never will!), but I imagine it’s kind of like the difference between training for one, and actually placing in one!

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God is so good, isn’t He?! If we will just keep with Him, keep surrendering to His gentle regenerating and healing work within us, He is faithful to complete the work He has begun!! Amen and so be it!

If you have had a similar epiphany or experience, I’d love to hear about it. So, I’m sure would others.


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10 thoughts on “Spring Cleaning of the Heart

  1. I was missing seeing your posts! And I rejoice with you mightily for such an incredible milestone! I totally get how completely amazing that must feel. I am sorry to hear about the heart weariness though. Praying for refreshing and strengthening and comfort and encouragement and inspiration for you, my dear sister! (By the way, loving the song you shared here. So pretty! As is your beautiful artwork!!) I love you, Jenny!

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    1. Thank you Jennifer. While it ended respectfully, endings are always difficult. But the point of dating is to rest the fit and once it is realized there is no ‘forever fit’ it is only right to bring an end to it so both parties can keep on looking. I have peace and I am feeling a refreshment welling up in my spirit, like a stirring of waters that had temporarily gone still. May He use this part of my story to encourage others to also date with wisdom and with their identity rooted in Him. ♥️

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    1. Thanks you. It only lasted a few months (thus the writing funk) but it was a lovely experience and I’m grateful to have had the opportunity to open the windows of my heart and let a fresh breeze blow through. Here’s to more fair weather winds in 2019 🌸😁♥️

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    1. Thank you Savannah. Although the romance was brief, it was a refreshment to my soul and an encouragement to my heart … a sweet deposit reminding me of His promise of greater things yet to come. And to be able to see/experience/witness the practical transformation of His healing work in me … *priceless* ♥️

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